Saturday, March 31, 2012

Gotye--Bronte

Sharing, because this is an amazing video.

Thursday, March 22, 2012

His Black Dress: Free-For-All I

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Found this via Tumblr. 


His Black Dress: Free-For-All I: Sometime during the Fashion Freedom February event, I got struck with an idea for a new series of posts. I thought it might be fun to show t...

Touchy Subject


This is something I have complained about before on my Live Journal.

The first part of the problem goes something like this: I do not generally speaking, enjoy being touched by strangers. I also do not like being touched by casual acquaintances and most of the people in my family. I generally go out of my way to avoid touching other people without their permission. (Except in cases where there is a total social breakdown on my part in which case I am generally very embarrassed afterward.)

The second problem goes like this: without exception, when I have politely requested that someone not touch me, that person has gotten incredibly offended. In a few cases, they openly made fun of me by pretending to cringe away in fear and loudly carried on about my request, as if I were making a big deal about nothing. (In this case, the usually male person will make jokes about sexual harassment.) In other cases, they verbally attacked me for daring to object to being touched by them.

A few specific cases:

  • D. was the husband of a former friend. D. had a very bad habit of patting me on the leg, shoulder or arm. I would ask him multiple times not to touch me, but he would do it anyway. One time he found out that coming up from behind where I couldn’t see him generally resulted in my elbow making a direct impact to his solar plexus. This did not necessarily keep him from continuing to touch me or startle me.
  • G. is the most annoying old man I have ever met. He would often offer me a ride to various places. He would also often touch me on the arm or leg, apparently to get my attention or in an effort to be “friendly.” When I asked him not to touch me, he made a really inappropriate joke about sexual harassment. He then gabbled on about a woman he knew that was in the witness protection program, apparently because of an abusive spouse.
  • I was at the library waiting to check out some books when an older woman decided to feel up my sweater. This is one of the few occasions where I actually blew up. Mostly because she said “sorry for feeling you up, I just love your sweater.” Since she was behind me, the only thing that kept her from getting socked in the stomach is that my elbows is chivalrous.
  • S. was a co-worker. S. had the really bad habit of patting me on the arm. He would then get extremely huffy when I asked him not to touch me. And by huffy I actually mean enraged.
  • On several occasions when I had my hair in a braid, people would grab my hair. It is usually women who do this, though I’ve had men do this as well. 

So, I am trying to figure out what part of “please do not touch me,” or “I really don’t like being touched,” is so offensive. I am not asking for very much!

  •  Do not touch any part of my body. This includes arms, legs, shoulders, head, back, hips, hands, hair and feet.
  • Do not touch my clothing.  
  • Do not come at me from behind and suddenly say my name or touch me.
  • Do not make a big flipping deal when I ask you to not touch me  







Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Ten Formative Books/Stories


This is for GBE2Prompt 44

1. Dragonflight, by Anne McCaffrey
As the first sf book I ever read, it stands out the most in my mind.

2. Pawn of Prophecy, by David Eddings (The first fantasy novel I ever read. It took forever for Dixie, the woman who got me hooked on reading to decide that I was able to read well enough to read this book, and thus borrow it.)

3. Owls in the Family by Farley Mowat
A couple years back I was able to snag of copy of this children's book for free. This was one of my favorite books, and I think the first I checked out of a library.

Friday, March 16, 2012

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

A Wicked Convergence of Circumstances: Prompt: Shenanigans

A Wicked Convergence of Circumstances: Prompt: Shenanigans: This is for GBE2 Prompt 43

This time around, the prompt is “Shenanigans.” Due to my complete inability to shenanigan, I have a great admiration for characters who are shenanigan-enabled. So, have a list of characters that enact shenanigans. “Shenanigans” will be here defined as “brilliantly sneaky or ridiculous thing.”  

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Random Plug!

I've recently started a store on Cafe Press. It's still a little bare bones at the moment, but I'm hoping to add more products/designs soon!.

check out Dork Sarcasms.

Friday, March 9, 2012

Fiction: Requite the Crush

Recently, Martine has been constantly on your mind. Her smile, her laugh, her freckles, the way she doodles little monsters in the margins of her notebook when she is bored with class. You have never had a crush on anyone before, so suddenly not being able to think of anything but how cute Martine looked when she smiled was kind of a surprise.

 She sits three seats in front of you in Algebra and two seats away to your left in World History.

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

"Invisible Children" not so great actually

In light of discovering that the organization that put out this documentary about Uganda and the LRA are actually quite ineffective and kind of playing with fire in a firework factory, here are some reputable charities, ganked from tumblr.

UNICEF

The International Red Cross

Doctors Without Borders

About Birth Control Pills


First, have a lesson in Birth Control For Idiots. I found this on Tumblr and it is a very good explanation of the various methods of birth control, including hormonal birth control. After the flack and aftermath of Limbaugh’s saying that a woman who was explaining that a friend of hers was not able to get insurance coverage for hormonal birth control pills ended up getting an ovary removed due to a cyst was a slut. (Because he is just that classy.)

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Kony 2012




This is a short documentary by an organization looking for what amounts to world wide grassroots support to get rid of the LRA and its leader Joseph Kony.

ETA: Here's some less positive information about the organization: Stop reblogging documentary: organization fail.

ETA2: And here's some more information about Uganda

A “Girl Thing”


This is something I call that thing where a woman does not believe that women and men can be just “friends.” A woman who does the *“girl thing” will become increasingly unhappy if her boyfriend, husband or significant other has friends who are women. A woman who does the “girl thing” will also display varying degrees of hostility toward other women to the point where she is not actually able to form a lasting friendship with members of her own gender due to being in a state of perceived competition with every other woman out there. (Paradoxically, or perhaps hypocritically, the woman who does the girl thing will often declare that she prefers having male friends. Logically, you would think that the woman who does this would avoid having male friendships to avoid “poaching,” someone else’s boyfriend, but no.)

When I was much younger, I very much assumed that this was the default setting! My mother falls into the category of women who do the “girl thing” and as a result would offer “girl thing” social advice which generally indicates that women cannot have female friends (competition!) or male friends (their girlfriend will think you’re trying to steal their boyfriend). Since I am not by nature a social person, and this is something I have to force myself to do because I miss social cues and have trouble presenting myself, this caused me to develop the following social rules:

  • If there is a boyfriend/girlfriend binary system, completely ignore the male half of the pair. (This is really easy for me to do as I tend to focus on one person at a time anyway!)
  • If a male acquaintance you associate with acquires a girlfriend, immediately cease associating with that person. (This is also not hard to do because more often than not, “the boy thing” is to assume that “the girl thing” is a standard operating procedure due to cultural memes.)
  • If a female acquaintance suddenly acquires a boyfriend, reduce contact with that person while also following the first rule. (Again, not hard to do as women with “the girl problem” do not want to really be your friend anyway!)

I have since been told that this is actually a really freaking stupid social strategy!

(If you try to follow this social strategy to avoid “the girl problem,” you basically do not have any friends. You may also be mistaken for someone who has "the girl problem" and you will avoided by women who find "the girl problem" socially immature and kind of freaking stupid. Though this may or may not actually be a problem if you are asocial for one reason or another.)  

The woman in question who informed me that I was Doing It Wrong had apparently never perceived or experienced "the girl thing," and informed me that I was actually being kind of a bad friend! Unfortunately, anecdotal evidence seems to support the “girl thing” theory, except in those cases where the woman in question is not a catty twit. As a case example, I have had several male acquaintances who completely stopped associating with me because they now had girlfriends. I am not currently certain if they had done it because they really had had girlfriends with “the girl problem” or if they had simply assumed that “the girl problem” was a general rule/establish fact.

As a result of “the girl thing,” as I’ve observed it, I have been kind of tempted to write some kind of YA dystopian science fiction story about it. In this story, men and women are kind of isolated from each other from birth. They are raised by robots and/or other AI computers, who having misunderstood something pretty essential and as a result believe that humans are by nature almost completely asocial. In this story-society, the only face to face human contact any one person would have for their entire lives would be exactly one live human--their boyfriend or girlfriend. The robots would carefully police every social interaction to ensure that no human interacted with more than one human at a time. 



*I call it the girl thing mostly because I think it is really immature and annoying. Also, "that thing where a woman goes apeshit bananas because her significant other has a woman who is his friend," is too long.

Sunday, March 4, 2012

GBE2 Prompt 42: Confrontation


This is for GBE2 Prompt 42

This is a confrontation that never happened! I am so very glad this confrontation never happened because just the idea of having this confrontation fills me with horror. I was so happy and relieved that this confrontation never happened, and no one felt the need to make me “work past it.” I am also very, very grateful that the professor understood and did not think I was exaggerating or lying.